Have you wanted to improve your “O”? Book me for your birthday, bachelorette and bachelors parties. For workshops, seminars and expos.  I offer individual and couples coaching to improve intimacy and sensual pleasure.

I am here to help!

Hi! My name is Debra Shade, Board Certified Clinical Sexologist and Master Sexpert.  12 years ago I wrote a book of intense erotica and the reactions I got from folks at signings led me on a very pleasurable quest.  In no time, I realized we needed modern day sex education. We need to discuss pleasure and benefits of completing the sexual response cycle.

While parts of media have become loose with their censorship of anything they consider, “adult content”, we are still not talking about sex for pleasure.  For the last 12 years, I have been on my journey to learn as much as I could on physical intimacy.  Climax produces hormones that benefit the body by lowering blood pressure and cortisol, acts as an antidepressant and antihistamine. With body contractions and tension muscles relaxing it relieves pain and helps you sleep better.

The Truth About Sex For Pleasure

I have found the solution for correcting generational conversations causing barriers to your pleasure. Holding your whole body wellness hostage.   It’s time we talk about it so that we can have the best experiences possible. Let me share the  erogenous zones that create one or two climaxes when stimulated with you.  Help you to create a regimen that will give you various benefits.

I consult individuals and couples as well as host seminars and workshops on the art of orgasm. I host a Brown Bag Workshop at noon on Wednesday to pass on modern day truths about physical intimacy. (https://www.eventbrite.com/e/427287316867) .

Counseling is for you if:

  1. Still in love with your partner but knowing it can’t go on like it is.
  2. Misunderstanding or being misunderstood.
  3. Deeply frustrated with no way out.
  4. Interested in creating a better future together.
  5. Genuinely wanting to connect with your partner but just don’t know how.
  6. Hoping to better understand the relationship you currently have.
  7. Eager to rekindle the passion you once had.
  8. In the same arguments over and over again.
  9. Without clarity but willing to discover what you want from the relationship & each other.
  10. Wanting to understand your relationship patterns and the effect they have.
  11. Keen to invest in strategies that bring more connection, intimacy and pleasure.
  12. Committed to working through blockages and problems including infidelity

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